Hellooooo Beautiful ones,
Let’s talk about FORGIVENESS!
I have chosen this particular subject because just lately it is coming up A LOT, both personally and with my coaching clients.
We have all held grievances, HUGE very justified ones, or small irritating but nonetheless ‘still there’ ones. The question is, what are they REALLY costing you, no matter how justified you feel you are in holding them? What is the price you are paying for not forgiving
The truth (drum roll) ……..
IT IS COSTING YOU YOUR HAPPINESS
IT IS COSTING YOU YOUR JOY
IT IS COSTING YOU YOUR PEACE
IT IS COSTING YOU YOUR CONNECTION TO YOUR SOUL
Yes, ALL of that, because the truth is you cannot have TRUE happiness and Joy AND hold a grievance of ANY kind, big or small.
Now I know how hard that may be to hear, but when you hold onto anything like that you are not LOVING, and when you are not LOVING you are not being true to your essential nature and you are cutting yourself off from your own wellbeing.
To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you
When I talk about LOVE being who we are at the core of us, I really mean it. I want you to have a think about what happens to our bodies, both physically and mentally when we don’t LOVE.
We quite literally break down, we become sick and we become depressed, it is quite literally poison to us.
Then think about what happens to our bodies and minds when we are LOVING, WE THRIVE. Think about examples in your own life when you finally forgave someone, how did it feel to you in your mind and in your body? The relief, and the ease.
If that is not proof of our natural resonance with LOVE I don’t know what is!
Just a note here, forgiving and letting go of a grievance does not mean condoning bad behaviour or allowing someone to repeatedly treat you badly (that is all about setting loving boundaries which is another subject we will be visiting.
This is very much about you and your happiness and capacity to lead a joyful life.
It also doesn’t require some big huge gesture and/or waving of a great big olive branch, it doesn’t even mean having that person in your life anymore, it just requires that you soften and allow your heart to open, in private, in the stillness.
Just wish that person love in their lives, or peace, or ANYTHING that you can muster at the time.
Just silently offer up something that feels better to YOU, something that allows YOU to feel lighter.
Not for them, but for YOU.
Very much for you.